First of all, we need to understand what we mean by style. The common assumption of style is based purely around fashion. Whilst this is true, it’s only one element of what style truly is. Style is essentially an external expression of you. An interpretation of your individuality and how you express yourself to the outside World. It’s how others perceive you, usually without even knowing you.
Let’s break this down to 4 key factors:
- Body Language
- Values & Behaviours
Each of the above factors contributes to your personal style. You’ll notice that most are purely visual. So your style speaks volumes! Several times a day, without even realising it, people are making an opinion about you based on your appearance. Don’t worry it’s just the way people tick and we’re all guilty of it whether it’s something we do consciously or unconsciously. Get this right and it could well open doors that you never expected. Some guys are naturally stylish and make an effort at styling themselves. Others just need a helping hand and the key to getting it right is understanding the style ingredients. Let’s be honest, the most popular style icons like David Beckham, Zayn and David Gandy have their own stylist. Even they take time and hard work to ensure they look cool & effortlessly stylish.
Although some of the key factors are visible and others aren’t, when it comes to style, everything eventually becomes visible. One thing you should try to avoid is kidding yourself into being someone or something you are not. Cracks will appear and people will see straight through them. Be true to yourself, it takes less effort and you’ll probably find it a lot more enjoyable and effective. We’re not all perfect beings and we do sometimes need to work and polish up on a few things. When you’ve mastered it, your style will look effortless and you will radiate.
The most common factor of style. Fashion is about what you wear and how you wear it. It can give someone a really glowing initial perception of who you are, if done right. Alternatively, you could end up selling yourself short if not.
Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself if what you are wearing truly reflects you and makes you feel good. Fashion and styling does not have be complicated, sometimes simplicity is the key to great results. Don’t overdo it though, or you might end up sending out the wrong signals.
Don’t be a fashion victim! We always see guys dressed in the latest fashions that look great. Just because something looks great on one person does not mean it will automatically look good on you. One thing to consider here is, is it a true representation of you?
I appreciate a lot of guys find fashion and styling a tricky area to master and sometimes we need a little help from professionals. There are lots of style consultants out there, so don’t be afraid to ask one. You’ll even find quite a few online sites as well as stores with complementary style consultants, use them. You’re not the only one that needs a little help or guidance and the end result will be worth it.
Remember to always be true to yourself, because if you’re confident in what you wear, then that in itself is a massive boost to you and your style.
How we look after ourselves matters when it comes to style. Self-maintenance takes time and effort. We’re not all gifted with perfect looks, so a little effort in this area goes a long way. This is the layer we fashion, so the better that layer is, the better the final result. Guys are paying more attention and money than ever before on themselves when it comes to personal grooming, but it doesn’t have to be expensive.
When we talk about personal grooming we’re talking about hair styles, beards, eyebrows, waxing, shaving, facial moisturisers, creams, even makeup for some amongst other products. All which contribute to your look. Again, be sure whatever grooming habits you take on, that you are comfortable with the end results and if you’re not sure ask for advice. Confidence in yourself is the magic that will make you shine.
3. Body Language
Others can tell if you’re a confident, shy, secure, nervous person just from the way you act. Simple actions can be attractors or detractors. From the way you walk to hand gestures, stances, and expressions. You’ve probably heard things like crossed arms is seen as defensive or holding back. Walking with your head down vs. walking with your head up and facing the World with a smile makes a massive difference.
You might find a stint at the gym a great natural way to release. A good workout will help your body to create and release endorphins (that’s the stuff that makes you feel good). This internal explosion of natural goodness will change the way you feel throughout. It’s amazing what endorphins can do, that boost in confidence unknowingly changes you on the inside and how you’re seen on the outside too.
Other ways to increase endorphins:
- Aromas, e.g. sniffing vanilla or lavender.
- Ginseng a natural herb and energy booster. Seek advice before trying this.
- Regular daily laughter.
- Sex, no explanation required.
- Chocolate, not sure this works as well on guys as it does on girls.
- Spicy food, only suitable for those with a strong stomach.
As you can see, you don’t need to become a gym bunny to improve your mood. And your mood will inevitably change the way you act and your body language.
We all get our off days, but let’s make sure we are at our best most of the time.
4. Value & Behaviours
This is the cornerstone, the core element to our individuality and style. How you live, the values you hold and how you behave, these are the foundations of who you really are. This can mean many things, from being a good all round soul to good manners, selflessness, respect and consideration. People notice the little habits good and bad and make their own assumptions based on them.
Let’s face it, we probably all know someone that’s well groomed, looks sharp but comes across a little arrogant and treats others without respect. Basically washing away the perfect initial perception others may have already made. There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance, don’t cross it, it’s not a good look.
Have you ever seen a guy on a date that opens the door for his other half? Or even pulls out the seat for their partner at a dinner table? Smooth, a true gent, cool, charming are just a few words used to describe these actions and that’s just from those two examples. Powerful isn’t it? Consciously or unconsciously people do make decisions about you without knowing you. There’s nothing wrong with using a few little old fashioned values now and then. See it as the polish to your already glowing image.
Charm, charisma and good manners add value and cost nothing. Your values and behaviour are the foundations of you, make them strong and make them good they will be noticed. What I am not saying here is to be someone that you’re not, the message I’m trying to get across is, what you see or notice in others, others also see in you. Be aware and brush up.
Yes, most of the things in this blog are common sense to many, but there’s a World of differences between knowing something and applying it. I didn’t say the perfect style was going to be easy, it does take time and effort, the more you do the better the results. Whatever your style, be true to yourself and be confident. Confidence in what you wear and the way you look gets noticed and should not be underestimated in the ultimate style results. Even though style is usually what others may see in you, make sure whatever style you chose, you’re doing it for you and not for others. When you style for yourself, you’re the happiest and are truly expressing the real you. The end results being more effective because you’re are comfortable in you. Stay true to yourself and be confident in yourself. You deserve to be the best you can be, (cheesy but true).
Thank you for reading.
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